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Limitless Leadership™ – Question why you do things….What’s your lamb roast?

Questioning others is a great way to understand, seek information, make others feel important and listened to. From a leadership perspective it can also empower others to come up with their own solutions, a bit like delegating thinking.

Why then do we often forget to question ourselves and the things we do and think?

Many a time we may get caught up on the Ferris wheel of life and almost go into autopilot doing we what we do because we’ve always done it that way before. The old adage, “If it aint broke, why fix it” can work for a while but in today’s world we need to look at what’s next. We need to bring in new ways of thinking, innovating and looking towards to future to stay relevant. I really believe looking outside the square helps us stand out and be different not better. That way we can stay a step in front and continue to challenge the status quo.

Always question the why…don’t be satisfied with only knowing the how -Catherine Pulsifer                        

There was a great story I read many years ago, about a lady who prepared a lamb roast each Sunday night for her family. Her husband used to cut the leg of lamb in half and one afternoon asked her, “Why do we cut the leg of lamb in half?” To which she responded, “I have no idea, we have always done it that way”.

Wiping her apron, she pondered her husband’s question and decided to call her Mum. “Mum why do we always cut the lamb leg in half?” Her Mum seemed puzzled and responded with “I don't know, maybe ask your grandmother”.

Highly curious now the lady set aside the vegetables she was cutting and called her grandmother and asked the same question “Nanna, why do you, Mum and I cut our Sunday leg of lamb in half”. The grandmother replied “Well, I’m not sure but I’ve always cut mine in half as I had a small oven”. The lady burst out laughing as she looked at her 900mm oven. Never had she questioned why she had cut the roast in half, it had never crossed her mind, as it was just the way it was always done.

Seize opportunities..

This analogy is a great way to reflect on how sometimes the simple tasks, decisions and way things are done are carried out almost in autopilot. Often we become time poor and I believe so many opportunities are missed for things to be even more effective.

When the stakes are high and the pressure is on it can be difficult for leaders, especially senior ones new to their roles, to pause before acting and to take a step back and reflect on why they are doing what they are doing and this also applies to those around them.

I think sometimes questioning our actions on the bigger things can be dwarfed by our inaction on questioning the smaller things.

I’d love to hear, where is the opportunity for you to question your “lamb roast” ?

Lead to be limitless…

 

 

Renee Giarrussso Director RG Dynamics Pty Limited Limited Leadership

If this article has resonated with you in any way – I’d love to hear your thoughts – get in touch.  Being in service to my clients is why I do what I do and your feedback, insight and any suggestions are always embraced.

Find out where you sit on the Leadership Ladder, your responses are anonymous and the results summarised to help us better understand where our market sits, so that we can continue to provide, insights, tools and solutions to assist you move up to be LIMITLESS, co-creative and stand out.

Renée is a mentor, coach, expert facilitator and keynote speaker, She is the author of ‘Limitless Leadership’ and co-author of ‘Leaders of Influence’.

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The Gift Mindset™: 6 Keys to Leading With Empathy

Empathy 6 keys to leading with empathy

When a colleague or direct report opens up to you about feeling overstretched and tired how do you respond? Do you respond with empathy or do you shut off as you have your own stuff to deal with?

Empathy is one of the 12 Gifts to lead and be a Limitless Leader™ and the word actually comes from the German word  “Euinfühlung” which means “feeling in”.

Many confuse empathy with sympathy with the key difference being…

Empathy is about finding echoes of another person in yourself – Mahsin Hamid

Expressing the gift of empathy is vital in any role, interaction or relationship and what I have noticed is many people think they do “empathy” but how many are truly feeling in?

Mastering empathy as a leader is a critical skill.

Six key things we need to do to experience empathy:6 keys to leading with empathy

  •  Listen through their ears

    • What are they hearing?
    • How might they interpret this?
  • Get in their head

    • What might they be thinking?
    • What logic might they be using to interpret the situation?
  • Notice their words

    • What are they saying?
    • What defining words, quotes and insights stand out?
  • View things through their eyes

    • What are they seeing?
    • How does this tie in to their lens view of the world?
  • Feel through their heart

    • What emotions may they be feeling?
    • How does this impact on their actions?
  • Watch their actions

    • What are they doing?
    • What are you noticing about their actions and body language?

By tuning in and literally almost physically experiencing what others may be going through you will have the closest chance to really understanding the other person and “feeling in” to what is going on. Hence, experiencing true and deep empathetic connection.

Think about a time someone has really empathised with you, what did you notice and how did you feel? Key moments of another showing empathy towards me stand out and although I can’t articulate their words I do remember how that made me feel.

When have you experienced empathy? As always I’d love to hear your thoughts.

Lead to be Limitless

If this article has resonated with you in any way – I’d love to hear your thoughts – get in touch. .  Being in service to my clients is why I do what I do and your feedback, insight and any suggestions are always embraced.

Find out where you sit on the Leadership Ladder, your responses are anonymous and the results summarised to help us better understand where our market sits, so that we can continue to provide, insights, tools and solutions to assist you move up to be LIMITLESS, co-creative and stand out.

Renée is a mentor, coach, expert facilitator and keynote speaker, She is the author of ‘Limitless Leadership’ and co-author of ‘Leaders of Influence’.

Follow Renee on FacebookInstagramIGTV or Twitter, or subscribe to her blog here or new podcast here.