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Limitless Leaders™ Connection – Your Energy Is A Mirror Of Your Mindset

‘We all have the choice of thought.
Think about what you think about.’

The mindset you adopt, foster and nourish will either assist you to flourish or expire as a leader. You choose your thoughts. Your creed, gender, age, intellect or experience doesn’t matter; we all have one thing in common—the choice of thought.

Your mind is your own. Yes, it can be tainted or lifted by others but you have to own it and accept you have total freedom of what you think is true, false, hindering or empowering, especially when leading others with your purpose, direction and energy.

Energy is shown through your actions. Ultimately, it comes from your mindset. If you run a meeting and have little or no belief or commitment in the message you are communicating: how do you think you will be perceived? You can't fake energy. You can try but it will become exhausting and people will see through it. When you do things incongruent to whom you are and what you believe in, you play the game of conflict. It’s an ugly game to play.

Your actions reflect your mindset

Every action has a thought and feeling attached to it. By simply reading that last sentence, you will have produced an action or thought. Maybe you frowned, maybe you had an answer and maybe you went blank. These thoughts and feelings trigger the actions or behaviours you demonstrate to your team and yourself.

Agility is a mindset, not a process. To adapt and upgrade to agile thinking you need to be able to ‘renew your mind‘. To get to a point where you doubt things and where you openly say, ‘I don't know’, can assist you in developing yourself and the team you are leading.

Having a clear mindset, one that is open to change and new ways of thinking and doing, will serve the greater good.

A few things you can focus on:

Responsibility: This is the ability to respond and be fully accountable for all outcomes. This means you need to be ‘at cause’ and decide—no matter the circumstances— that you will be accountable and take responsibility for the outcomes. Making the choice to self-lead and take responsibility can be a real game changer.

Focus: The old adage, what you choose to focus on, you will find, rings true here. Think about an unusual baby’s name; until you heard it, it wasn't in your focus or sphere of thought on a subconscious level—now it pops up everywhere. What do you want from your team and for your team? If you look for issues, you will find them; if you look for competency and have a strengths-focus, you will also find this.

Perspective: Use perspective when faced with limited options that may be preventing you from moving forward. A limitless leader likes exploring unknown territory, like standing at a cliff face, they aren't led towards certainty. They prefer clarity over certainty and have a clear sense of what is next to achieve their overall mission and purpose.

Mindset: This is about being able to discipline your imagination. When you get to a place of, I don't know, you are perfectly placed to install upgraded software in your mindset— a new way of thinking. This takes you to a place of curiosity. Ask yourself, What if I did know? This simple reframe can open up your thinking to a world of possibility and new ways.

In a nutshell, the actions and behaviours we currently display come from what we are thinking. Take a moment to reflect on the current results you and your team are experiencing. What you are experiencing right now comes from actions resulting from your mindset and the mindset of your team.

I’d love to hear your thoughts

Lead to be limitless…

Signed Reneé



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Limitless Leaders™ Connection – Building mental fitness through a culture of gratitude

Limitless Leaders Connection Building mental fitness through a culture of gratitude

Gratitude is not only the greatest of virtues, but the parent of all others.
― Marcus Tullius Cicero

Over the last few months with many leadership teams, we have explored the topic of gratitude and how this is being expressed in the workplace. Call it recognition, praise or appreciation; what stood out is that we need to take the time to show gratitude within and across the teams, we work with.

Many organisations focus on a ‘performance culture' and not a culture built around gratitude. This can affect the level and deepness of gratitude that employees practice. I call this ‘grey gratitude‘, it may not be intentionally stifled but it’s not hitting the mark as part of what makes up the culture.

If you are looking for employees to go beyond the contractual obligation of their roles and build mental fitness, then expressing gratitude should be part of your leadership. Acknowledging the thoughts and efforts of people with gratitude shows that those people matter and this can build a culture around gratitude which I believe is vital.

Research shows that taking the time to develop an attitude of gratitude can:

  • Build a psychological immune system, making us more resilient to stressful situations
  • Accelerate positive emotions
  • Create a greater sense of achievement of goals
  • Fewer sick days and less stress
  • Greater collaboration and connection
  • Higher job satisfaction overall

What gets in the way?

Many times, people feel awkward practising gratitude and may see it as fluffy and esoteric. The leadership team may not be on board and therefore don’t foster openness and space to build this practice into the culture. Another key blocker is people may see gratitude as a weakness and may feel left out if they don't receive gratitude in return. Many simply don’t adopt the mindset. 

We spend one-third of our life at work, that's over 90,000 hours so it makes sense to incorporate the gift of gratitude into your workplace. Click To Tweet

Gratitude can connect people. It can create collaboration and anchor positive behaviour and it’s also one of the collective skills that make up resilience.

Feelings, actions and our mindset flow from the way we look at the world and how we think about the situation – to change our feelings, we can start by thinking about what we are grateful for. Often, we find our feelings scary and confusing, so we keep them at a distance. However, shutting off our feelings not only backfires, but it drains us of the psychological energy that is needed to build resilience. We need our feelings in order to find satisfaction, meaning and pleasure in life, both in and out of the workplace.

Gratitude can maximise happiness in multiple ways, and one reason is that it helps us reframe memories of unpleasant events in a way that decreases their negative emotional impact and lets in optimism. We can let challenges deepen the way in which we are grateful – it can show us not to take things for granted.

Looking back is about learning and looking forward is about progressing. Click To Tweet

Accessing and sustaining positive emotion is key to building resilience in organisations, needed now more than ever. Focusing our attention on how far we have come can provide positive reinforcement and fuel with our thoughts to overcome challenges and setbacks. It’s like looking in the rear-vision mirror of a car – what you pass goes by quickly, but it’s easy to miss a beautiful landmark or a life lesson that you could share. 

Think about how you could flip what I call “Grey Gratitude” in your workplace to a clearer vibrant practice?

We have workshopped this question in a few companies and I’d love to share a few ideas and tips:

Share 1 situation or person you are grateful for.

  • Kick off a meeting/workshop/project review with each person sharing who or what they are grateful for in the workplace
  • An option is to capture these on Yammer/Teams

3 positives to 1 negative

  • For every negative, you or the team discuss, workshop 3 positives 
  • This reinforces the face we often focus on what isn’t working instead of the things we could be grateful for

Create a Gratitude wall-virtually or in the office

  • People can leave notes of appreciation for anyone
  • Name can be shared, or this can be anonymous

Ask a question

  • What capabilities, qualities and skills have got me to where I am today? 
  • Individually of self or share as a team

Be specific

  • When we aren’t specific when expressing gratitude this dilutes the impact and intention
  • Imagine replacing “I’m grateful for that” to ‘I’m grateful for the support you have given the team and I this month”.

It is ideal to have structured forums to share as well as spontaneous recognition and ways to show appreciation. Some subtle ways of sharing gratitude every day could be as simple as sending surprise emails to others expressing appreciation or creating a forum to share internal updates and encourage people to share.

Be mindful not to do ‘gratitude’ in overdrive – this can seem false and dilute the effects of authentically being grateful.

I would love to hear how you are incorporating gratitude in your workplace!

Lead to be limitless…

Signed Reneé



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Renée is a mentor, coach, expert facilitator and keynote speaker, She is the author of ‘Limitless Leadership’ and co-author of ‘Leaders of Influence’.

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Limitless Leaders™ Connection: How are you contributing to the most important person in your life – YOU?

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Life gets hectic and especially of late as we all face a global pandemic, the war of our lifetime. This has presented challenges along with opportunities in more ways than one. We can get caught up in the “doing” of life instead of the “being” and spend time contributing to our home team, work team and community and we often forget about serving ourselves.

Contribution is a core human need and it satisfies another human need – growth. We grow when we contribute and contribute through growth.

You’ve heard the saying ‘you cannot pour from an empty cup‘ so therefore we need to serve ourselves in order to better contribute to and serve others. Like fuelling a car, if we optimise self-contribution then the car will go further. We will also feel more fulfilled and able to bring our ‘whole selves’ to whatever we do.

Self-care is giving the world the best of you instead of what’s left of you! Click To Tweet

We can contribute to ourselves in a plethora of ways and we need to be mindful of how and when we do this, to ensure the Gift of Contribution doesn’t remain unwrapped.

Let’s explore a few ways we can ensure we give back to ourselves:

Wellbeing

What are you doing to ensure you are mentally, spiritually and emotionally looking after yourself? This could be as simple as exercise, meditation, mindfulness and protecting yourself from situations and people that disempower or drain you.

Self-growth

Identify and further develop your competencies and skills. Find out what really motivates you and satisfy these preferences – they will make you feel more energised. By growing yourself, you will have more to contribute to others, both in and out of the workplace.

Reading

Create a reading habit. Research from the University of Sussex found that reading for only six minutes per day can reduce your stress by 68%. It's a great way to learn, take yourself away from the everyday and contribute to yourself, your growth and your inner peace.

Compliments

Accepting compliments is vital to healthy relationships, especially the one with yourself. By saying ‘thank you’ with gratitude, you are honouring the person giving the compliment and reinforcing the quality or trait you are being complimented on.

Be kind to yourself and as I always say, talk to yourself as you would a friend. We are often harsher on ourselves than anyone else.

Saying ‘no’

Easy to say but not always simple to do, learning to say ‘no’ without guilt can be empowering and will enable you to spend the right time on the right things and people. Trying to be everything to everyone is not sustainable long term. Remember you are saying ‘no’ to the event, not the person – this will make the process easier.

Dedicating time to what you love

What is one thing you are passionate about that you can dedicate time to? What sparks your interest or curiosity? Maybe it’s cooking or learning to play the guitar. We can find the time if we are intentional. The American Time Use Survey showed that we can find up to five hours per day for leisure time.

Self-contribution is vital or your energy can end up in the lost property box. If you are one of those people that find self-contribution indulgent or not a priority, reflect on what it will cost you not being able to contribute to others and live the best version of yourself.

As always Id’ love to hear what resonated with you and how you contribute to the most important person in your life-YOU.

Lead to be limitless…

Signed Reneé



PS: Want to skyrocket your success from working anywhere? We've launched our new online program and you can read more about that here.

 

If this article has resonated with you in any way – I’d love to hear your thoughts – get in touch.

Being in service to my clients is why I do what I do and your feedback, insight and any suggestions are always embraced.

Find out where you sit on the Leadership Ladder, your responses are anonymous and the results summarised to help us better understand where our market sits so that we can continue to provide, insights, tools and solutions to assist you to move up to be LIMITLESS, co-creative and stand out.

Renée is a mentor, coach, expert facilitator and keynote speaker, She is the author of ‘Limitless Leadership’ and co-author of ‘Leaders of Influence’.

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Limitless Leaders™ Connection: Mindset Matters

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Mindset Matters. Your mindset is a way of thinking. It is a collection of your attitudes, thoughts and beliefs that shape your thought habits. It is what you think day to day that can be a driving force to your success. Our mindset is a mental inclination or disposition, a frame of mind.

A very powerful aspect of mindsets is how quickly they can be shifted, and how powerful the consequences can be. Unlike skills that have to be practised again and again, mindsets sometimes show dramatic shifts.

It is imperative to develop a strong and disciplined mindset, as this gives you the ability and agility to own your thoughts and therefore your actions.

“You’re in charge of your mind. You can help it grow by using it in the right way”- Carol Dweck

 

Going from working onsite to working remotely requires us to upgrade our mindset as does living in a time of such great uncertainty. This is where the transition and acceptance have to start. As much as working remotely requires a physical change in our work, it also requires a psychological one.

Limitless Leadership Mindset Matters

Our thoughts and the feedback we receive from others will determine how we feel and this creates self-awareness and the action we do or do not take and the attention we give things.

The one thing we can control is our thoughts, and this is great news when going through change. Click To TweetControlling what you think and fostering a mindset that serves you can assist to adapt to new things successfully, such as working remotely and/or leading a remote team.

Take a moment:

  • What is an empowering thought I have in relation to working and/or leading remotely?
  • How does this make me feel?
  • What can I action right now?

As always, I’d love to hear what works for you and how you cultivate a mindset that sets you up for success? Lead to be limitless.

Signed Reneé

PS: Want to skyrocket your success from working anywhere? We've launched our new online program and you can read more about it here.

Ever wondered what Renee gets up to when she isn't with working with her clients? She's doing this.

 

If this article has resonated with you in any way – I’d love to hear your thoughts – get in touch.

Being in service to my clients is why I do what I do and your feedback, insight and any suggestions are always embraced.

Find out where you sit on the Leadership Ladder, your responses are anonymous and the results summarised to help us better understand where our market sits so that we can continue to provide, insights, tools and solutions to assist you to move up to be LIMITLESS, co-creative and stand out.

Renée is a mentor, coach, expert facilitator and keynote speaker, She is the author of ‘Limitless Leadership’ and co-author of ‘Leaders of Influence’.

Follow Renée on FacebookInstagramIGTV or Twitter, or subscribe to her blog here or new podcast here.

 

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The Gift Mindset™: Empathy Trumps Sympathy

Empathy trumps sympathy…

People complain when they are not feeling heard. It takes more than sympathy to make someone feel heard. The word for that “something more” is empathy. Empathy is the most powerful change-maker in all situations, in all… Click To Tweet

In the work we have been doing with organisations around creating and using EI and other communication skills and habits to lead, the more I realise that empathy is one of the keys to building deeper relationships and connections.

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