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Limitless Leaders™ Connection: Stop awfulising and own your thoughts!

Limitless Leaders™ Connection: Stop awfulising and own your thoughts! blog

“The thoughts you think today will determine the results you see tomorrow.” – Robin Sharma

Having a deep awareness of our thoughts is the one thing we can control, no matter who we are or where we are from.

Our thoughts dictate how we feel and therefore, where we do or do not take action. We need to be consciously aware of our thoughts and our inner dialogue. We also need to be aware of our minds chatter that can escalate to fear when we go through uncertainty or face something we don't understand.

Negative self-talk can include awfulising (not a real word) where you may assume the worst, and it can lead to a downward spiral of negative thinking. Another common one is filtering; this may be when you face a challenge and can only see the negative aspects, although positive ones exist in parallel.

For example, if you are thinking “I don't like working from home” this will naturally cause you to focus on the negatives of the situation, which may include loneliness, disconnection, demotivation, uncertainty and so on.

Our inner voice allows us to narrate our own lives; it is an internal monologue almost like a conversation with oneself that has so much power over us. Click To Tweet

4 key tips to eliminate that awfulising voice

Catch your critic and name it:

Stop and name the thought, and refer to it by that name going forward. I once had a client say that negative talk was about being not good enough or to “needy Ned”. This made her laugh whenever she referred to these thoughts with this name. This alone can change your current state of thought and the direction of further conversation.

Flip your beliefs:

Usually, whatever we think or tell ourselves are framed as beliefs, things we believe to be true that either do or do not serve us. Inviting a negative belief into your head for instance; “I will never get through this challenge” could be flipped to “What can help me get through this challenge?

Talk to yourself like a friend:

It's amazing how harsh we can be to ourselves, often harsher than we would ever dream of being with those we love. Talk to yourself as you would a friend; be light, be kind and above all, be respectful and come from a place of love.

Reframe your words:

Words are more powerful than we think, and we need to be conscious of what and how we frame what we tell ourselves. Reframing “I'm nervous and challenged” to “I'm excited about this opportunity” can change your energy, mindset and above all your awareness from what can be opposed to what can't.

  • This is too hard vs this may take some effort
  • I can't do this vs I'm on track to doing this
  • Being alone is hard vs who can I connect with
  • Working at home vs working from home

As always, I'd love to hear what is working for you.

Lead to limitless…

Signed Reneé



PS: Want to skyrocket your success from working anywhere? We've launched our new online program and you can read more about that here.

Ever wondered what Reneé gets up to when she isn't with working with her clients? She's doing this.

 

If this article has resonated with you in any way – I’d love to hear your thoughts – get in touch.

Being in service to my clients is why I do what I do and your feedback, insight and any suggestions are always embraced.

Find out where you sit on the Leadership Ladder, your responses are anonymous and the results summarised to help us better understand where our market sits so that we can continue to provide, insights, tools and solutions to assist you to move up to be LIMITLESS, co-creative and stand out.

Renée is a mentor, coach, expert facilitator and keynote speaker, She is the author of ‘Limitless Leadership’ and co-author of ‘Leaders of Influence’.

Follow Renée on FacebookInstagramIGTV or Twitter, or subscribe to her blog here or new podcast here.

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Limitless Leaders™ Connection: Supercharge Working Remotely

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In today's workforce, managers can often be seen as the unsung heroes. Pivotal to an employees performance, motivation and happiness at work, they have the power to influence how engaged employees are. In essence, they drive how people may think, feel and act, therefore impacting the culture of the organisation they work within.

Whether managing teams on site or remotely, leadership can be learnt and built upon. Limitless Leadership™ is based on the premise of learning, unlearning, forever evolving and having an infinite mindset of what could be.

As I write this the global pandemic of COVID-19 continues to force many workplaces into lockdown yet again with employees continuing to work remotely from home in shifts or on a full time basis.

Many of my clients are working remotely, my brother has lost his job, my sister is in isolation as having cancer treatment and my Mum has just had her business shut their doors. Many of those around us are in a state of flux, fear and anxiety. The familiar smiles from the coffee shops are fading, the roads are quiet and there is a strange energy in the air as we remain uncertain of our future, our health, our work and all that we had planned.

In these times of uncertainty, change and disruption, as leaders I believe this is an opportunity to shine and level up in our leadership through new ways of working, thinking and collaborating. With a major pivot, we can all get through this. Personally, we have had the majority of our work postponed and we have been working feverishly around the clock to change HOW we deliver what we do.

Going from chaos to calm is important as we navigate a landscape we have never seen before in our lifetime. Click To Tweet

Supercharging your leadership is needed now more than ever.

Leading remote teams has fast become the new normal while working during COVID-19 and the accessibility of technology, better working practices has seen a downturn in the need to invest in expensive offices. Some businesses access all they need from a backpack. Whoever would have thought this was even possible?

A report from the UN International Labour organisation found that while many employees are more productive when they work outside of the conventional office, they're also more vulnerable to working longer hours, a more intense work pace, work-home interference, and, in some cases, greater stress.

The challenges are real

Recent research from Soapbox indicated that remote managers experience retention challenges six times higher than on-site managers. They also discovered that remote managers struggle two times more than on-site managers when getting their teams to collaborate. This is due to distance, time zones and other factors.

Another finding was that managers leading remotely found hitting team goals almost twice as hard as when leading onsite. It was also discovered that managers with more than 50% of their team working remotely struggle with providing value to employees in one-on-one catch ups. Another key finding was that 56% of employees surveyed believe that managers need to adapt their skills to lead a remote workforce.

As leaders, we need to step up!

Having worked and led teams remotely for over 20 years I’m highly aware of the challenges above. In conjunction with these challenges, many other barriers block our way to successfully lead teams and businesses remotely.

Here are a few key tips on leading teams and businesses remotely:

Lead with empathy

Empathy requires us to lean in and really feel what other people are going through.

Don’t assume everyone is seeing the world the same way as you. Take the time to be present and have deep and meaningful interactions with your team and peers.

Examples of simple questions you could ask are; How can I support you right now? Would you like me to talk or just listen? Is there anything else I can help you with?

Mindset

A change of mindset can be a barrier. An adaptive mindset around creating new norms is crucial when we go from an office environment to working in isolation. When we shift from what know there is uncertainty and as humans we aren’t good at dealing with the unknown so reframing expectations is vital here.

Remember thoughts and what we tell ourselves lead to how we feel and therefore what we action. Be conscious of what you are thinking and the story you are creating. Talk to yourself as a friend would.

Sole or group environment

In the workplace, there are those that lean towards working in a sole environment and most probably will usually adapt more easily to working remotely than someone who is motivated by people around them. Many people struggle to stay motivated working alone, even with access to online collaborative tools and new ways of working.

Ensure you tap into each person and amplify technology as a conduit to collaboration and don’t assume that everyone has adjusted to working remotely in the same way.

Set new expectations

A change in working conditions can lead to unclear expectations, boundaries and ways of working. For an employee having no direction or leadership is like driving somewhere using Google Maps without inputting a destination. There is nowhere to aim for or reach which can stifle action, motivation and overall morale.

Unclear purpose, objectives and expectations of the business, team and roles are widespread especially when new norms aren’t in place and accepted.

Ensure expectations are discussed as a team and everyone set boundaries for what they will and won’t stand for (such as working hours and breaks).

Set up your environment

The environment we work from can be a barrier. Lack of room, light, interaction, systems and processes can stifle our productivity, motivation and overall performance. Communication can become fragmented when a team is split up. Many people experience a lack of training in new systems and tools needed to do their job from home and this can impact confidence and productivity.

Ensure workspaces are set up for success and the technology and systems are assessed, understood and utilised.

Self management

Managing time and prioritising is another common challenge and distractions from visitors, loved ones and even the family pet can get in the way.

Many people find loneliness creeps in, we are wired to connect so this can be a natural and common occurrence. Speaking to a client recently who has relocated to a home office from a fast paced open plan office said she feels like she has FOMO, fear of missing out and being out of the loop as not in her normal environment.

Manage self to manage time and ensure everyone has a work plan and boundaries around this.

Use physical disconnection to drive connection

Human beings are wired for connection, it’s an innate need to belong and be part of a community. Ensure as a leader you are jealously protecting time for 1:1s (often first to be forgotten), team catch ups and quick check in calls to keep the lines of communication open. Be innovative and have virtual lunches, themes of the day and different times you catch up.

Use a variety of tools to connect and leverage the technology available.

Coach and grow team members to facilitate team catch ups so you aren’t always in the driver's chair.

I really believe there is a gift in every situation and now is your time to shine as a leader, collaborate more deeply with your team and look at new ways of working to lift performance.

The world needs you, now is the time to step up and supercharge your leadership.

Lead top be limitless

Signed Reneé



PS: Want to skyrocket your success from working anywhere? We've launched our new online program and you can read more about that here.

Ever wondered what Reneé gets up to when she isn't with working with her clients? She's doing this.

 

If this article has resonated with you in any way – I’d love to hear your thoughts – get in touch.

Being in service to my clients is why I do what I do and your feedback, insight and any suggestions are always embraced.

Find out where you sit on the Leadership Ladder, your responses are anonymous and the results summarised to help us better understand where our market sits so that we can continue to provide, insights, tools and solutions to assist you to move up to be LIMITLESS, co-creative and stand out.

Renée is a mentor, coach, expert facilitator and keynote speaker, She is the author of ‘Limitless Leadership’ and co-author of ‘Leaders of Influence’.

Follow Renée on FacebookInstagramIGTV or Twitter, or subscribe to her blog here or new podcast here.

 

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Limitless Leaders™ Connection: Three questions to ask as we lead into a hybrid workplace

Three questions to ask as we lead into a hybrid workplace

Are you ready to lead in a hybrid working environment?

The uncertainty of the past few months has also created both opportunity and possibility like we've never seen before.

As we know, a crisis can fast track change. Now is a great time to reflect on what you and your team have learnt and what you can take with you as you re-enter into a hybrid working environment.

Many of our clients have experienced deep collaboration, innovation and stronger relationships with their teams. Overall they are feeling more connected to their people! What a gift!

As we re-enter the workplace and make the shift to a hybrid working model, it’s essential to ensure we don’t forget the “gems” we have gleaned from remote work. We need to look backwards, look forwards and look around us by taking a peripheral view. We can get caught up in the doing and defaulting back to the way things were, it's too easy.

 

We've been exploring these three questions with clients:

  1. What will you let in?
  2. What will you let go of?
  3. What will you let be?

These questions are the foundation of our newly launched Setting the NEXT NORMAL™ team workshop programs.

 

 

As we approach the NEXT NORMAL™, avoid defaulting backwards in your thinking, your mindset and how you work. Click To Tweet

Now is the time to instil confidence in your team and take the shared lessons and the creative thinking into the future of work to re-energise purpose, performance and culture.

Love to hear your response to what you will let in, let go of and let be?

Lead to be limitless

Signed Reneé

PS: Want to skyrocket your success from working anywhere? We've launched our new online program, and you can read more about that here.

Ever wondered what Reneé gets up to when she isn't with working with her clients? She's doing this.

 

If this article has resonated with you in any way – I’d love to hear your thoughts – get in touch.

Being in service to my clients is why I do what I do, and your feedback, insight and any suggestions are always embraced.

Find out where you sit on the Leadership Ladder, your responses are anonymous, and the results summarised to help us better understand where our market sits so that we can continue to provide, insights, tools and solutions to assist you to move up to be LIMITLESS, co-creative and stand out.

Renée is a mentor, coach, expert facilitator and keynote speaker; She is the author of ‘Limitless Leadership’ and co-author of ‘Leaders of Influence’.

Follow Renée on FacebookInstagramIGTV or Twitter, or subscribe to her blog here or new podcast here.

 

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Limitless Leaders™ Connection: Mindset Matters

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Mindset Matters. Your mindset is a way of thinking. It is a collection of your attitudes, thoughts and beliefs that shape your thought habits. It is what you think day to day that can be a driving force to your success. Our mindset is a mental inclination or disposition, a frame of mind.

A very powerful aspect of mindsets is how quickly they can be shifted, and how powerful the consequences can be. Unlike skills that have to be practised again and again, mindsets sometimes show dramatic shifts.

It is imperative to develop a strong and disciplined mindset, as this gives you the ability and agility to own your thoughts and therefore your actions.

“You’re in charge of your mind. You can help it grow by using it in the right way”- Carol Dweck

 

Going from working onsite to working remotely requires us to upgrade our mindset as does living in a time of such great uncertainty. This is where the transition and acceptance have to start. As much as working remotely requires a physical change in our work, it also requires a psychological one.

Limitless Leadership Mindset Matters

Our thoughts and the feedback we receive from others will determine how we feel and this creates self-awareness and the action we do or do not take and the attention we give things.

The one thing we can control is our thoughts, and this is great news when going through change. Click To TweetControlling what you think and fostering a mindset that serves you can assist to adapt to new things successfully, such as working remotely and/or leading a remote team.

Take a moment:

  • What is an empowering thought I have in relation to working and/or leading remotely?
  • How does this make me feel?
  • What can I action right now?

As always, I’d love to hear what works for you and how you cultivate a mindset that sets you up for success? Lead to be limitless.

Signed Reneé

PS: Want to skyrocket your success from working anywhere? We've launched our new online program and you can read more about it here.

Ever wondered what Renee gets up to when she isn't with working with her clients? She's doing this.

 

If this article has resonated with you in any way – I’d love to hear your thoughts – get in touch.

Being in service to my clients is why I do what I do and your feedback, insight and any suggestions are always embraced.

Find out where you sit on the Leadership Ladder, your responses are anonymous and the results summarised to help us better understand where our market sits so that we can continue to provide, insights, tools and solutions to assist you to move up to be LIMITLESS, co-creative and stand out.

Renée is a mentor, coach, expert facilitator and keynote speaker, She is the author of ‘Limitless Leadership’ and co-author of ‘Leaders of Influence’.

Follow Renée on FacebookInstagramIGTV or Twitter, or subscribe to her blog here or new podcast here.

 

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Connect through love – not fear

connect through love not fear

Working with many leadership teams over the last few weeks I really noticed how much anxiety, distraction and overwhelm was present. Not only in peoples thinking but in their overall demeanour. Even upon driving to sessions I’ve noticed people walking around staring aimlessly at their phones, face masks on and very little human interaction or connection to be seen. I even observed a guy in a lift take his jacket off, wrap it around his hand and then push the lift button.

This isn’t surprising behaviour given the current world events. It is natural for us to come from a place of fear versus a place of love but we need to make a choice and it’s one we all have access to.

Love is a positive emotion that connects us whereas fear disconnects us from others.

Coming from a place of love in situations where we default to fear can serve us in a multitude of ways. Our thoughts determine our feelings and therefore the action we take.

We need to make a conscious effort to:

Be kind

The smallest actions can build deeper connection to self and others and can make a huge difference. I let someone go before me at the checkout at Coles last night and this was received with so much gratitude.

Focus on what isn’t changing and the things you can control

The recent toilet paper fiasco was a result of people doing control in “ overdrive” by overbuying to feel they have some control in the situation.

Look at focusing on small things like daily routines and habits that serve you.

Come from a place of love and perspective, not from a place of blame

Ask yourself “What would love do?” when questioning how to respond to things.

Reflect on your view of the situation and the language you are using

Communication is the response you get. Make sure the team you are leading or are in is fostering open, clear and intentional communication  (especially if now working remotely)

Is this hindering or helping you and others? How is your team interacting?

Show empathy and compassion

Others may view things differently to you so consistently lean in to how others are feeling and appreciate them.

Remind ourselves we are all connected

We know that together we are better and reinforcing the fact we are all connected and have an innate need for connection can drive a connective energy.

Respond vs. reacting

A response is driven by logic opposed to a reaction that is emotionally led and often regretted. Take the time breath, pause and then respond.

Self reflect

Invest in the time to reflect on your story and thoughts from a place of love, this will flow on to your actions.  Being connected to ourselves is vital especially at times like this. It’s the foundation to deeper connective relationships and interactions with others in and out of the workplace.

I’ve recently been writing on The Gift of Connection, one of 12 Gifts, in my upcoming book, consists of two key elements: self connection and connection to others.

We cannot be fully connected to others until we tune in to ourselves. Click To Tweet

I’d love to hear how you  and your teams/s are consciously connecting?  Remember we are here to help you through any challenge you're facing right now.  Please reach out if you need to!

 

To being Limitless…

 

 

 

If this article has resonated with you in any way – I’d love to hear your thoughts – get in touch.  Being in service to my clients is why I do what I do and your feedback, insight and any suggestions are always embraced.

Find out where you sit on the Leadership Ladder, your responses are anonymous and the results summarised to help us better understand where our market sits, so that we can continue to provide, insights, tools and solutions to assist you move up to be LIMITLESS, co-creative and stand out.

Renée is a mentor, coach, expert facilitator and keynote speaker, She is the author of ‘Limitless Leadership’ and co-author of ‘Leaders of Influence’.

Follow Renée on FacebookInstagramIGTV or Twitter, or subscribe to her blog here or new podcast here.

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