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The 4 Levels of Thinking

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The 4 Levels of Thinking

With the year-end fast approaching and another new year about to begin I reflect on a fantastic year of assisting our clients to grow and develop both professionally and personally.
Mindset has been a common theme this year, especially within coaching programs and with those leaders further developing positive psychology within their teams and in their thinking.
This has prompted to me to share some methodology behind the way we think. We always need to start with our thoughts as these trigger our feelings and therefore our actions and results.

4 Levels of Thinking

There are 4 levels of thinking within the psych of the human being.
By being aware of the levels and the impact they have on us we have the ability to know where we are positioned in our thinking and who we need to be and what we have do to get to a resourceful level of thinking. We use this tool in many of our coaching programs with clients and also within team workshops.

Let’s have a look at the four levels of the way we think:

Level 1
Doing what feels good
Is good for you
Is good for others
Is good for the greater good

Level 2
Doing what does not feel good
Is good for you
Is good for others
Is good for the greater good

Level 3
Doing what feels good
Is not good for you
Is not good for others
Is not good for the greater good

Level 4
Doing what does not feel good
Is not good for you
Is not good for others
Is not good for the greater good

Ideally you want to live in Level 1 & 2 as these levels are ecological & empowering and provide growth therefore assisting you to meet your needs resourcefully.

Level 2 becomes level 1 after some time; an example of this is when you may not feel good about learning a new skill. Once you have mastered this you feel good again and therefore are at level 1.

Level 3 becomes level 4 after some time. An example of this could be living in a comfort zone where you may feel good keeping safe and protected but after time this will no longer work for you and therefore you end up in level 4.

Examples:

Level 1- Eating organic food, recycling etc.
Leading a high performing team, being a coaching resource

Level 2- Learning a new skill, once you have mastered a new learning you are back in level 1
Taking your team and self out of your comfort zone, challenging the status quo

Level 3- Procrastinating, living at effect
Not challenging yourself or the team, keeping things the same, no growth

Level 4- Living day-to-day, lack of motivation and growth as a team
Depression, burn out and loss of purpose

So how you can apply this to your personal or professional life?

• Be aware of what level you are thinking in
o If level 3 or 4, what do you need to do to get back to level 1 or 2
• What would you be doing if you were living at level 1 or 2?
• Where do you think the majority of the time?

What level are you living in?

It is a great time to reflect and see where your thinking is at as we end a year and soon start a new one. Start your new year in a positive mindset that will serve and empower you and ensure you are living on purpose.

Have a fantastic and safe festive season!

Renee Giarrusso
Director- Metamorphose Consulting

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Listen to what is NOT being said

Listen to what's not being said

As many of you know we run numerous workshops that include the fascinating topic of emotional intelligence (IQ) and Body Language. I have had 3 requests in the last week to write an express blog on this and will post additional information over the next few weeks. It links in well with connecting to people as when you read and observe body language you are completely in the moment and will rapport more quickly and easily.

I am only going to cover the basics and the best way to fine tune your skills in reading body language is to practice and become aware of one pattern at a time. It is important to remember that a pattern usually means something when in sequence and context so watch out for all the signs.

Did you know 70% of first impressions you leave on someone come from your body language? 55% of the way you communicate is via non verbal signs such as body language. Only 38% is the way you speak and a staggering 7% are the actual words. Now you can see how powerful it is to understand body language as it can really help you connect, build rapport more easily and persuade and influence.

Today let's look at one of the most powerful types of communication ……EYE CONTACT

There is a saying “Hearts have been broken and wars have been declared in the blink of an eye”. Eye contact shows respect and interest. In many western cultures it is said that we should maintain eye contact for 60-70% of the time. This is different for some cultures where eye contact can demonstrate lack of respect. Using more than 60-70% of eye contact can cause the other party to feel uncomfortable as you will come across as too intense. Strong eye contact shows self confidence, strength and belief in what you are communicating.

Where a person looks can also give you an insight of what is going through their head.

There is a lot I could write on this but the basics are:

-Looking up means the person is visualising something

The language used may include words such as seeing, paint a picture, imagine and so on.

-Looking Side to side means they are hearing something

The language used could include words such as hearing, sounds like, boils down to etc

-Down to their left- Feeling something

-Down to their right- means they are processing something which is usually self talk

If they look to their left they are usually remembering and to their right they are usually constructing.

I always ask a question to verify this and this enables me to tap into the other person in a much deeper way.

Remember to bring in everything you notice, not just one aspect and include the power of language in this.

Have fun with this……. remember to listen to what is not being said.

Keep Flying!

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Changing Your Mindset

Changing your mindset

An amazing fact… Did you know that research shows that our brains change and adapt throughout our lifetime by creating and reinforcing an ever-increasing variety of connections or pathways!

We have over 100 billion neurons in our brains that can make more connections than the stars in the night sky!  Your brain is shaped by your thoughts, actions and experiences and this in turn determines how you are wired and therefore the way your life is shaped.  In a powerful sense this really means you have the ability to change the way your mind works.

All you need to do is to consciously choose what pathways or thoughts you want to focus on, therefore allowing yourself to control your emotions and actions.  The key obstacle here is only your willingness to want to change.

You can reshape your mind to achieve real changes in your life.  We see this with professional and private clients especially in the coaching arena and the only hindering factor is ones willingness to change or believe that change is possible.

Many of us have our own mindsets, actions and behaviors that can be traced back to what are really threats deeply wired in our brains.  When we sense these threats we trigger our fears that then make us revert to our trusted responses.  We then become what we repeatedly do, most of the time without noticing.

This may then have an impact on our freedom, happiness and fulfilment in life, a huge cost to pay for something we can change!

We need to find the root cause of these threats by delving into the fear behind them.  An example could be the threat of making a mistake where the root cause would be around the fear of failure.

So what can we do?

Get in tune!

We spend most days with our brains in autopilot and we do what has become ingrained in us, usually without even knowing it.  We need to wake up to what is around us then we can recognize what may be holding us back or what we fear.

Mindfulness is a term I hear a lot and in simple terns this means becoming aware of yourself and your surroundings by paying more attention to the moment and things that are external to you.  We can practice mindful listening, where we shut off our “self talk” or internal dialogue to be really listening and present. This will help you observe the activity of your mind and where you naturally default. In simple terms… think about the way you think…….

Think outside the square

Now we need to look at what needs to change or we will go back to our old ways! We need to change our thinking as thinking is a habit and we need to redesign the way we think in order to produce new behaviors and weaken the old ones.  We need to redirect our mindset many times in order to create a new pathway and create the change we want.  By thinking differently to how you normally would, it allow you to CHOOSE how you want to see the world and how you will RESPOND to it.

You will also grow as a person as part of the process… something to think about.

Keep flying!

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Are you living in the Circle of Concern or Influence?

circle of concern or influence

Steven Covey wrote an amazing book many years ago, one of my favourites “The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People”. In this book he runs through many strategies, with one in particular we incorporate into many of our workshops around the reactive and proactive strategies we use when dealing with the world around us. Some people spend a lot time worrying or focusing on the things they CAN’T control and this becomes a habit they believe they can’t break. Ideally if they were to flip this they would become proactive and focus their time and energy on things they CAN control. The challenges and opportunities we face can fall into two areas: The Circle of Concern & Circle of Influence.

If you are being proactive then you are focusing your efforts on your Circle of Influence. You would be working on things that you could actually be doing something about such as your health, personal development & rectifying problems at work.

If you are being reactive then you are focusing your efforts in the Circle of the Concern. You could be focusing your efforts on things you have little or no control over such as: national debt, the weather or a certain person you may not click with.

So, let me ask you “What is in your Circle of Influence?” and “Your Circle of Concern?”

Take a few minutes to think about this:

What are 3 key things you are focusing the majority of your energy, time and head space on?
You can break this out at professional and personal level.
Can these things be improved on and are you in control of them?
OR
Are these things out of your control and can only be worried about without any chance of a positive outcome?
Something to thing about and a great tool to use individually or workshop as a team to ensure focus in on the things that can make a difference!

Keep Flying!